Many people do not know what they feel because they were not allowed to express their feelings as children. You cut off a large percentage of your intelligence when you suppress your feelings because much of your behavior is based on feelings that you aren't even aware of. When you acknowledge your feelings, allow them with dignity and respect, and find acceptable ways to express them, you have more self-acceptance and more control over your actions. When your child is experiencing strong emotions: acknowledge and allow acceptable solutions.
Acknowledge anger:
Sounds like you are really angry
Allow anger:
Everyone has a right to feelings. I don't blame you. I have felt angry many times.
Acceptable solutions:
Would you like to punch a pillow?
Would you like to jump up and down?
Do you need to take some time to yourself?
